The greatest challenge to any thinker is stating the problem in a way that will allow a solution. – Bertrand Russell
This is one of the key benefits to using a coach, counselor, or having a friend or mentor that is skilled in these kinds of conversations.
Often when we try to approach a problem in our lives, particularly if we are too close to it or it is emotionally charged, we can struggle to find a view on the issue that is open enough to allow a solution.
Bertrand speaks of an isolated thinker. It is rare for someone to find the kind of time and solitude these days to really contemplate a difficult problem and find a resolutions, but it is possible for someone really dedicated to it. I have countless friends, clients and colleagues who I know have had problems and questions they have been trying to workout for years.
On the other hand, having another person, or network of people, with experience working through these kind problems can vastly expedite the process.
Having an outside view from an informed perspective, engaging in purposeful and meaning conversation on the problem, along with personal reflection an thought, can tease open our problems in a way that allows us to see them differently.
With new perspectives we can restate our knotted problems in new ways, which could allow for easier access to resolution.
Retreats and workshops help too…