Continued Progress

“I am suffocated and lost when I have not the bright feeling of progression.” – Margaret Fuller 

Here lies a common and persistent problem for us, not just as individuals, but as a culture.

Progress is a cultural idea, and one that has served humanity well, when it has been thought out and directed. Medicine, sanitation, supplies of food and water, all of our daily needs are more easily met through the achievements of progress. But progress is also responsible for the devastation of natural environments, individual problems with physical and mental health, and war and all that comes with it.

Its the same for us as individuals. Individual success can be built on failed relationships and broken promises much easier than if the time is taken to tend to those things.

If all that what value is progress and all that we want to feel if happiness and freedom, it is easy to forget the realities of everyday life. Sometimes we feel stuck. Sometimes we are overcome by sadness and grief.

Chasing progress is admirable, but not if you are running away. When you run you cannot see clearly the devastation you may be leaving in your wake.

If you are lost in the wilderness it is not wise to keep going in the direction you are going without trying to determine where you are in relation to shelter and water and food.

If you are “suffocated and lost” in life, don’t just pick any direction and go. Pause, get your bearings and choose your direction. Do it consciously, aware of the impacts it may have on your health, your relationships, and the world itself.

Making conscientious and deliberate progress is significantly more valuable to you and those around you than rushing out in any direction in order to feel you are moving forward.


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Stating the Problem

The greatest challenge to any thinker is stating the problem in a way that will allow a solution. – Bertrand Russell

This is one of the key benefits to using a coach, counselor, or having a friend or mentor that is skilled in these kinds of conversations.

Often when we try to approach a problem in our lives, particularly if we are too close to it or it is emotionally charged, we can struggle to find a view on the issue that is open enough to allow a solution.

Bertrand speaks of an isolated thinker. It is rare for someone to find the kind of time and solitude these days to really contemplate a difficult problem and find a resolutions, but it is possible for someone really dedicated to it. I have countless friends, clients and colleagues who I know have had problems and questions they have been trying to workout for years.

On the other hand, having another person, or network of people, with experience working through these kind problems can vastly expedite the process.

Having an outside view from an informed perspective, engaging in purposeful and meaning conversation on the problem, along with personal reflection an thought, can tease open our problems in a way that allows us to see them differently.

With new perspectives we can restate our knotted problems in new ways, which could allow for easier access to resolution.

Retreats and workshops help too…


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Weekly Update – Feb. 24, 2017

Not much in the way of major posts this week, other than an outline of some of the workshops I am offering and pitching to yoga studios, retreat centers and the like. Please contact me if you know of anywhere local to you that might be interested in any of these programs.

I’m getting pretty constant with Daily Refections posting & am pretty happy with the ones I got up this week.

I had a great 2 day visit from Cambridge based friend and bhakti yogi Tom Lena. If your a fan of kirtan, he does a great set and has performed at multiple festivals.

I also had a great last night at my store, Oil & Vinegar (in Montclair, NJ), for our 1 year customer appreciation party. We gave away some amazing gifts and had some fantastic food we were able to top off with $250 25 year old balsamic. Grateful to my kick-ass staff for doing a fantastic job pulling it all together!

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!

Jeff

An Open Letter To A Friend

I know you know this and still I feel the need to remind you…

“It could be worse,” is not a useful perspective.

It implies that the pain or discomfort we are in is somehow insignificant, that it should be written off, and conversely, that the joys and gifts in our lives are somehow not enough.

Beyond how we see the glass, “half full” or “half empty,” the fact remains there is a container (real or imagined) holding half its capacity. That is it. Your perspective on the glass is only relative to how you think it should be in some ideal, imagined state.

Things are what they are. The glass is how it is. Whether it is drained or filled or left as is depends entirely on how you change the volume of the fluid or the size and shape of the container.

It is your glass, and your water, after all…


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